It’s that time again! Are you are love ‘em or hate ‘em kind of mum (I’m referring to the holidays of course, not your kids lol).
Even if you’re a love ‘em kind of mum, sometimes staying sane for the WHOLE holidays can be a bit of a challenge. So I thought I would offer some tips to help get you through.
Start the day with a meditation
Starting the day with a meditation can really set you up for a calm, relaxing day. Well maybe not relaxing but you will find that you can respond more calmly and rationally to the chaos.
Even if it’s just 5 minutes of closing your eyes and taking deep, deliberate breaths, this will help. If you can manage a bit longer, even better. Here is a nice short meditation you could try:
Close your eyes
Place both hands over your heart and take 3 deep breaths
With each breath, imagine white loving energy filling your body
Imagine white light flowing into every cell of your body, from your head down to the tips of your toes
Say to yourself, “Today, I choose peace. I choose love. I choose to be present with my children and surrender to the flow of the universe”
Take another 3 deep breaths
Open your eyes
And if you can’t get any time by yourself, try and do it with the kids. You can all sit down together, cross your legs, close your eyes and do the deep breaths together. Here’s a nice short little meditation you can do with the kids:
Close your eyes
Imagine you are sitting on a big while fluffy cloud
You are floating high up in the sky
Everything is so quiet and peaceful
Up ahead, you can see a rainbow
It gets closer and closer as your cloud floats towards it
Your cloud floats under the rainbow and all the colours of the rainbow start to rain down on you in tiny droplets
It feels so nice
You feel so happy as your cloud now gently floats down to the ground
Take a nice deep breath in and out
Wiggle your fingers and toes and have a nice big stretch
Open your eyes
Set an intention for each day
Another great thing to do at the start of each day (and not just in the school holidays), is to set yourself an intention for the day. This will help you get clear on how you want your day to go. Some examples are:
- My intention today is to be calm
- Today I intend to have a fun day
- My intention for today is to be fully present with my kids
- Today I intend to surrender to what will be
Make a plan with the kids for the week. Get each kid to write all the things they want to do on sticky notes (maybe a different colour for each child). Then draw up the days on a big piece of paper and find places for all the activities (well maybe not ALL but at least some of them). Make sure it includes things for you too. And… be sure to schedule in rest days! Here’s an example:
It’s OK to be bored
Remember, it’s OK for them to be bored! Let them use their imagination and think of things to do on their own. If we are constantly providing them with things to do or entertaining them, then they are not learning how to entertain themselves or how to be comfortable doing nothing.
Get the kids to help with the chores
There’s no such thing as a holiday from the housework right? And sometimes you feel guilty spending time cleaning when the kids are home but stuff still needs to be done. So… get kids to help with the chores. Obviously they have to be age appropriate. Click here for a great resource for age appropriate chores. Some of the ones most kids actually like helping with are:
- Folding the socks (turn it into a fun sock fight when all the socks are folded up)
You can always remind them that if they help you, then there will be more time for you to spend with them doing the things they want to do.
When there are chores that only you can do or if you have some other things you need to do, something that I find works really well is to have quality time with the kids first, then do the other stuff. If you fill up their cups first, then they are more likely to be content doing their own thing for a while. And if you start out by explaining how the day is going to work (or put it on the planner), then they are prepared for it.
As much as your kids love you, they also love school holiday play dates with their friends. A big tip is to try and plan for all your kids to go on play dates on the same day. That way you get the day (or a few hours at least) to do your own thing. Then on the flip side, when it’s your turn to host the play dates, get all the kids over on one day. Then each of your kids has their own friend to play with and they won’t bother the other siblings (as much). I know this doesn’t always go according to plan but it’s good in theory!
Some fun indoor activities
- Building blanket forts
- Board games
- Movie and popcorn
- Hide and seek
- Treasure hunts
- Colouring in
Some fun outdoor activities
- Going for a walk in nature
- Going to the playground
- Scootering or bike riding
- Water balloon fights
- Treasure hunts
- Going to the beach
- Playing in the mud
- Kicking a ball around
- Outdoor mini golf
If you have any more tips on how YOU stay sane in the school holidays, we would love to hear from you! Post your ideas in the comments below. Happy holidays beautiful mama!